The dieting started as a teenager. Always interested in sports, but having gone through puberty that changed my petite childlike body into one with curves that were unlike many of my sporty teammates, I started to feel conscious of my body. Add in a relative making comments about my newfound weight gain in a negative light, my teammates talking about diets and exercise and finally, boys I liked seeking to choose girls with less curves to date and it was no surprise that I tried my first diet at 17 years old.
I can still remember the excitement of that first diet. Probably because it was the same feeling I would have prior to the other 15+ diets I would try over the next 8 years of my life. The results photos, the preparation, the reviewing of the rules I would have to follow. I was always so dedicated to the way in which I would look and therefore feel at the end. This love affair with diets only lasted in the honeymoon period while I was excited about it all. Soon the restriction, the hunger, the extreme obsession with every piece of food or calorie burnt would become tiresome.. but the results would start setting in and it was all worth it right?
Obviously if this were a diet success story I wouldn’t be telling you about the many diets that came after each successful weight loss. I probably lost and gained the same 15 lbs over and over again and in the process gained more in my rebound stages after a diet. And while this story is not unlike many women’s story in their late teens and early 20’s, my turning point came at a particularly low point where I started to turn to laxatives to enhance my calorie burning and my bingeing got out of control. But how come bingeing? The extreme dieting and rules led me to mistrust myself around food so the minute I had “blown” my diet or eaten something “forbidden”, I would eat large quantities of this “bad” food with the promise to recommit to my diet tomorrow or Monday. This was becoming out of control.
I sought help for my eating disorder through out-patient counselling. It was ineffective. I wanted to change but I wasn’t willing to give up my old ways despite the negative impacts on my health. I spent a few years trying out new counsellors until I finally stumbled upon the concept of intuitive eating through a self help book by Geneen Roth. Always a fan of reading, the words were so poignant that at times I felt that Geneen was speaking directly to me. I cried with the pain of my feelings and how this yo-yo dieting had impacted my life and stolen away joy in so many of my moments. My love affair with personal development and my implementation of intuitive eating began.
I wish I could say it had been an easy process. I was going it alone and I felt unable to seek help out of shame but my determination to heal my relationship with food and exercise pushed me through the tough times. The world of self help and personal development is amazing with its resources but we forget that healing can come from sharing and learning we are not alone. I am proud of the work I did to get to this point on my own but I’m so much happier after I opened up about my struggles a few years ago and joined body positivity and self love groups to connect with others. This has spurred my love of this type of healing and has created a passion for helping others in their journeys through coaching. With the goal of showing others what intuitive eating can do to allow them to nourish their lives.
I’ve just gone this whole blog though without explaining what exactly intuitive eating is which I guess was the whole point of it, but I thought it necessary to explain the obsessive rule-based diet world that I had lived in before so you can see the contrast with the practice of intuitive eating.
Intuitive eating in its simplest form is going back to basics. Before society influenced us as babies, we were intuitive eaters. Watch a newborn or a toddler eat and you can see intuitive eating in action. Eating when hungry, not worried about labels of “good” and “bad” foods but rather eating in its purest form. Trying a variety of foods and determining what they like without numerical values attached or emotions. As an adult it is hard to bypass our judgements and experiences around food, but we CAN ask ourselves what our body truly wants and feels like having. It requires awareness and non-judgement on what that might look like. While food freedom and normalizing all foods is key to intuitive eating, it is important to note that it is not a free for all of eating foods that you previously thought you couldn’t have, but rather a focus on what your body needs and wants to feel nourished physically and emotionally.
Sound daunting? I have to admit it was scary to me. I envisioned myself eating cookies, ice cream and chips non-stop. I definitely had a period where I rebelled and ate all those foods in excess to make up for years of dieting. But eventually, embracing the tenants of “how do I want to feel and what am I really hungry for” that are paramount in intuitive eating, I started to recognize that what I thought I would solely be eating was not really what I wanted. My weight stabilized and I learned to trust my body and it’s innate wisdom. The freedom, confidence and empowerment has spilled into so many other areas of my life and I can truly say that it has made me a happier more fulfilled person who had more time to enjoy her life and pursue her dreams now that the obsession with diets and how all encompassing the reality of following them can be.
In fact, as I enter my 6th month of pregnancy, I can honestly say that intuitive eating has made my experience more rewarding and exciting. I’m at peace with my body and making choices that feel right to me and my baby. A time that could have been focused on the weight gain and fear over what I put into my mouth is instead a time of curiosity and wonderment as I learn about growing this tiny human. I picked a midwife who is ok with my choice to remain off the scale since I know that my choices align with my beliefs and values. I’m creating a pregnancy and soon to be birthing story that is right for me and that is beyond joyous to me.
If you are at all interested in learning more about intuitive eating and how you can apply it to your life, feel free to reach out. I have 30 and 90 day transformation programs guaranteed to start your journey with love and support that I wish I had had earlier on in my journey.
Much love xoxo Jen